Lust vs Love. What are the differences?
Knowing the differences may help you navigate life better, well you can at least try.
Love and lust sometimes feels like two side of the same coin. All of us have encountered both feelings propelling us do the unimaginable to people around us.
A friend of mine said there’s no love without lust and vice versa. It’s certainly one way of looking it. I feel there’s definitely a connection between love and lust, a certain co-dependency exists within the realm.
Excess desire for both can lead to destruction of body, mind and soul. Balancing them can be difficult especially if you do not know what are the characteristic of love and lust.
“Love is a strange emotion. It is ever evolving. Lust is transient. With time, one realizes that love and togetherness are two different things. Very few people are lucky enough to experience the two emotions simultaneously.” ~Randeep Hooda
Here are my observations:
Lust
The main story here is immense physical attraction to overall or specific parts of body or looks. This intense feelings always culminates into sexual attraction. You may not want to have a real connection by getting to know this person personally.
You may explore fantasies as acknowledging anything other than that will bring you down to reality. We don’t want to burst the bubble of fantasy, do we.
If you meet this person and have sex, you are not interested to stay and cuddle or stay and cook breakfast but once the act is over you want to get the hell out.
“Lust feels like love until it’s time to make a sacrifice.”~ Unknown
Establishing any other type of relationships or friendships is out of the question. You don’t want to be friends but sex is always on the table.
That’s ok!
Love
Love is a deeper feeling. Almost profound and you might struggle to find the source. It comes and go (or won’t go). But the grip on you is extensive and more severe. When you meet someone and you start developing feelings you strive to spend as much time as possible. Sex may be included.
You feel a great connection. Conversations seems like there’s no end. You never run out of things to talk about. You get into a rhythm, a flow, so natural to both of you.
You care for this person and genuinely interested to know everything. Good and bad, flaws and all. Their motivations, goals and life aspirations. You want to know everything. You try to be part of it all. Sometimes you succeed. You want to get in, fit in and be whole.
“To me you’re perfect.”~Love Actually
Spending all these times together creates happiness for both of you, mutually. It’s a two way street. Without barriers and stop signs. Obstacles may come, only later. Flaws are smoothed out. You see a halo that demands worship.
You want to be part of the wider circle of family and friends. You want to be known. You’re here and to stay.
If all goes well, ultimately you will support each other to grow, personally and spiritually.
Footnote: Whatever the feelings, maybe, always be truth to yourself. Respect your emotions if not no one else will.
